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“Dear Breasts: What Are Your
Plans?”
You are concerned about your breasts. Why?
Because you don’t know what their plans are? Are you afraid
that they are going to do something of which you don’t
approve? Are you afraid that they are going to embarrass
you? Let me ask you something… How well do you know your
breasts? Have you spoken to them lately? Or do you just take
them for granted and ignore them… treat them as two flowers
on the wall?
Sit down and write a letter to your breasts.
Really! Take off your shirt, sit in front of a mirror, look
at your breasts very closely, and start writing. Tell them
what you think about them. How do you really feel about
them. What do they mean to you? Why are they there? What are
you expecting of them? Are you proud of them? Or have they
disappointed you?
Write down two good things about them that
you see. Yes, there are always some good things about
everything. We just have to look for the good things. They
are there. Do you see them? Are you looking? Look again.
I’m sure that you have always felt better
when you knew what was going to happen to you. But, all of a
sudden, you have something new that is threatening to change
your lifestyle. Some THINGS. And they are threatening to
cause your lifestyle to be different from what you have
always planned.
Sadly, you do not have much control over what
happens to you in your life… at least when it comes to how
your body is developing, you don’t. But you DO have a LOT of
control over how YOU deal with your body changes. You cannot
change bodies with someone, even though that would be nice
sometimes, but would you really want to? There is that girl
that is a couple of grades in school ahead of you that is
exactly what you would love to look like… the same weight…
the same height… the same gorgeous hair… the same pretty
face. You want to be as athletic as she is, and as POPULAR.
Especially popular. That would be so cool. And her figure is
to die for. Right? But it looks like your breasts are NOT
going to be looking like hers. They are too… what? Too big?
Too small? One’s baby-sized and the other is huge? Whatever,
they sure don’t look like HERS!
You already know that you are only dreaming
when you think these things. She is who she is, and you are
who you are. But that is not bad. Actually it is good. Even
though she looks great in so many ways, and you would love
to look just like her… to BE her… there is a surprise coming
to you. She is not everything that she appears to be. She is
only what she WANTS you to think that she is.
You see, she believes that she
is pretty and popular and exciting, and if SHE believes it,
everyone else believes that. She actually has some things in
her life and some parts of her body that she is not very
proud of, but you would never know it. Why not? Because she
refuses to let those negative parts of her life control the
good, positive parts of her life and her body. You have
good, positive parts to your life and your body. Everyone
has good parts. Have you looked for them lately? Sometimes
all we can see are the bad parts.
How is that letter coming that you are
writing to your breasts? How many good things have you
written down? Keep looking… there are more good things about
your breasts that you probably have never thought about…
have never seen.
Instead of talking about ‘that girl’, let’s
talk about your breasts. That is why
you are reading this note, right? You are afraid that your
breasts are not ____________... go ahead and fill in the
blank. What are your concerns? They are not …what? …not big
enough…? …not small enough…? …not an equal size…? …too
droopy…? …too pointy…? Which of these describes your
breasts? I assume that you did not fill in “My breasts are
perfect”. If you did you would not be reading this note.
And by what standard are you comparing your
breasts? Do you know what other women’s breasts even look
like? More importantly… do you know that their breasts
looked like when they were your age? And what about all that other
important stuff? Did you have your first period at the same
age they had theirs? Or do their mother’s breasts look like
YOUR mother’s breasts? We cannot ignore genetics, can we?
Or maybe you resent even having breasts? Did
you enjoy being able to be ‘one of the guys’ and playing
baseball and wrestling and climbing trees and playing
without your shirt on when the weather was too hot to wear
one? And now all of that is changing because “THEY” are
sprouting out on your chest and your mom says you have to
wear the shirt now? Or she tells you “It’s not really
appropriate for a young lady to wrestle with the boys any
more”? Maybe you were just happy as could be… until ‘THEY’
started causing problems. You ask yourself “Can I take a pill to make them go
away?”
Because of the fact that you were born a
girl, breasts are destined to be part of your life. But that
is not a bad thing. Breasts are good. They were designed to
do something that boys cannot do… you can feed that precious
young baby that you bring into the world when you marry and
start your own loving family. You get to hold your baby and
love it and give it the most precious gift that you can ever
give it, after giving it life itself. Your breasts will
allow you to do that. No matter what size or what shape they
are, now or later.
Your breasts are changing right now, and they
will continue to change throughout your life. They will
constantly be changing. You know those “PERFECT” breasts
that you hear about? Well, they do not exist. They only
exist after the PhotoShop makes them perfect. Or after the
surgeon charges you tens of thousands of dollars to cut your
precious breasts up and MAYBE they will turn out looking
more like what you hoped that they would look like on their
own. We won’t bother talking about the ones that did not
turn out ‘quite right’. The ones that are ‘failures’. The
ones where the surgery literally destroyed the breasts. Oops!
You can probably tell me about several women
that have pretty breasts that you feel are very close to
being the PERFECT breasts. Anyone can probably do that. But,
I guarantee you that the choice you make will not be the
choice your mother would have made when she was your age.
Why? Because of “Fashion” and “Trends”. Did you know that
when your great-grandmother was your age, the girls were all
wrapping their chests with bandages, trying to force their
breasts to be as flat and as non-existent as possible,
because that was what was ‘in fashion’ then. Ten years
later, larger breasts were more in style, and those that
tied their breasts down were sorry they did that, because
their breasts grew to be deformed as they developed, from
that tight binding around their chests. When I was in high
school my English teacher had a bunch of National Geographic
magazines in the classroom, and they ALL seemed to have at
least one picture of native women with breasts that went
straight down their chest. We thought it was because they
did not wear bras. It was not that at all. To them, a flat
chest was more beautiful, and they literally tied them down
from the time the girls were starting to develop. Some even
“ironed” them flat, like you iron a blouse, and they used
hot rocks. OUCH!. What we have to do to be in fashion. WOW.
When your grandmother was your age, in order
to be in fashion, she had to have really large breasts, and
they had to be really pointy, and they looked like they
would put out someone’s eye if she walked into them on the
street. SOOO many young women just did not naturally look like that.
Their breasts were just not that large, and they were not
that pointed. Have you ever seen a woman that had breasts
that stuck straight out and went to a point at the end?
Without a bra making them do that? Do
you remember the funny bra that Madonna wore on stage that
looked like she was wearing two funnels on her chest? Well,
she was making fun of the girls that your grandmother looked
up to as the “ideal” breast shape. Those poor girls back
then were so desperate they were the ones that were first to
have implants placed in their breasts, so that they would
look like the movie stars that had large, pointed breasts. A
famous dancer in San Francisco even had raw silicone INJECTED
into her breasts with needles, and she became huge. She
is still alive.
When your mother was young, she grew up with
women a little older than her that began to revolt against
the wearing of a bra, and they were leaving them off. It was
the time of “bra-freedom” and people talked about “burning
the bra”. So, what did women’s breasts look like when they
did that? Well, they looked really funny… something that was
really unusual. Their breasts looked… um… NATURAL. (gasp).
Really! They looked like real breasts. And you know what?
They looked BEAUTIFUL.
There were large breasts, and there were
small breasts, and there were breasts that were lower on the
woman’s chest than we were ‘used to seeing’. And they were
all beautiful. They all looked like real breasts. No one
complained because a woman’s breasts were too small, or were
too large. Everyone accepted women with their natural
breasts. It was very nice.
But, as nice as that all sounds, guess what
changed? Yep. The ‘Latest Style’ changed. Why? Because a lot
of people make a lot of money simply because people like to
buy the ‘latest’ and the ‘greatest’, whether it is the
newest car or the latest i-Phone or the latest dress style
done by a designer living in Paris. So, because styles
changed, the breast styles changed. Women went back to their
bras, and each year we see new styles and designs to change
the look of women’s breasts. For some reason, people are not
satisfied with what they were naturally given. Men are the
same way, but they are not as keen on fashions or how their
bodies look. Well, except for things like body hair. When
you granddad was in school, men with hair on their chests
were “real” men. Today, men prefer to shave their chests and
their backs and everything so they will be smooth. People
laugh at men with body hair today. And yet, movie stars grow
shaggy beards and don’t comb their hair. Fashions change.
OK, this is starting to sound like a teacher
giving a lecture, so let’s get back to you. To your breasts.
The reason we did that little history lesson was to have a
way of standing back and thinking about the “big picture”.
In reality, the “perfect breast” that you would choose
today, will not be the perfect breast when you are a decade
older. If your breasts are smaller today than the average
woman’s breasts, and you feel yours should be larger, think
of how nice it will be in ten years when smaller breasts
will be very popular…again… and yours will be ‘perfect’!
Ask you mom if she remembers who Twiggy is.
She is a British model. Her breasts were absolutely tiny. So
many women with larger breasts made themselves miserable
trying to make their breasts look smaller. Some were so
desperate to be with the “in-group” that they had their
surgeons reduce their breasts. What a tragedy. Not only they
had serious scars on their breasts for the rest of their
lives, many of them had complications from the surgery and
they had to have their breasts completely removed. And many
of them, even though they were able to keep their breasts,
could no longer breastfeed their children when they had
them. Surgery can (and often does) destroy the natural
function of the breast.
There is something else, too. And it would be
a shame if we don’t talk about it. You are old enough that
we need to talk about it. Are your breasts sensitive? Do
they feel good when you touch them? That is natural, and it
is a gift that you have that allows you and your husband to
feel sexual excitement when you are making love. That is
very important, and when you are married, you will find that
it can be a very, very significant part of your everyday
life. Your breasts feel that way because you have a lot of
nerves in your breasts that can be stimulated, and it makes
you feel really good when you are being intimate with your
husband.
That sensitivity has another, more important
reason. When you place your new-born child to your nipple,
his or her lips will stimulate your breast nerves. That will
send signals to your brain, which stimulates your pituitary
gland to release certain hormones in your body to go
through your blood stream to your breasts, where they enable
your glands in your breasts to produce milk. That is a very
complex system, and when you do breast surgery, most of the
time you will mess up that complex system, and you may not
be able to breastfeed your baby. And that is not good,
because you give all of your natural immunities to your baby
when you breastfeed him or her. That makes your baby much
more healthy and strong, and it helps their brain to develop
to be smarter. It also helps you to bond more completely
with your new child, helps you to lose weight after giving
birth, and a ton of other good things that you don’t want to
lose out on. Things that are extremely more important than
“being like the other girls” or having the “perfect
breasts”.
Or… maybe you are in a panic mode right now
because your breasts are HUMONGOUS things and you are afraid
that you will look like a COW! Well, there certainly are
some negatives to having extremely large breasts. You likely
will not be a ballerina, or a distance runner. But you don’t
really know how large your breasts will become. Who can tell
you what size they will become? Um… nobody. Nope. So many
things may influence the ultimate size of your breasts, and
no one can ever follow them all and predict anything with
any certainty.
Are you a gambler? Do you like to take
chances and bet your friends on how things will turn out?
Well, don’t place any money on what your breast size will be
when you are twenty-five, OK? You will likely lose all your
money.
There are so very few women who develop
extremely large breasts that it just is not likely to happen
to most people. I know… you see some of the women on the
internet or in Playboy or Penthouse magazines with huge
breasts. Those are not the average woman. They are
especially chosen BECAUSE of their breast size. And most of
them MADE their breasts that size, by having a doctor insert
implants inside their breasts just so they will be that
large.
Why would they do that? Why would a woman
WANT her breasts to be that large? Because they like them
large. Everyone has their own opinion and desire as to what
size they want their breasts to be. Sound familiar? You have
an opinion of what you want your breasts to look like,
right? You wish they were larger… or smaller… or more firm…
or something. VERY FEW women are happy with the size of
their breasts… unless. Unless they decide that they like
their breasts. And more and more women are realizing that is
a good thing. Deciding that you like yourself… you like your
facial features… your breasts… your height… your weight…
that all makes your life so much happier and better.
Incidentally, if you are thinking that putting silicone
implants into your breasts would be an answer to your
"problems", and would make you a beautiful person, stop and
think about possible problems that you will more than likely
face if you decide to put them into your breasts. Yes, many
women have selected to have their breasts mutilated with a
scalpel and "made beautiful" by removing tissue or adding
foreign materials to their breasts, but do you ever hear
about the many women that are in tears over the 'other'
problems that decision brought into their lives? The young
women that made the choice when in school, and when they
married, only then found that the surgery destroyed their
chance to breastfeed their precious baby. Whether they had
implants installed or had tissue removed to make their
breasts smaller, surgery alters the many tissues and ducts
and glands inside the breasts when the scalpel assault them.
Has
anyone shared with you how long their new breasts last?
Silicone implants do not last forever. When you save all
that money up and take that trip into the hospital, it is
not over... not at all. You are not always told that if they
are not damaged and leak earlier, the implants will
likely need to be cut out and replaced in about ten years,
and then you get to do the healing all over again, and you
get a whole new set of scars on your once lovely breasts.
There is an increased incidence of infection, and capsular
contraction is something that causes your breasts to become
rock hard. Imagine your new boyfriend's face when he hugs
those! Keloid problems are very distressing and can impinge
your health. And that ten or twelve thousand dollars you
paid for your new breasts... you get to pay that again when
you remove and replace them. What is you just leave them
out? Your breasts will be smaller than they were before your
surgery. And with all of that internal damage from surgery,
they will surely hang lower than before as well.
A
flat tire is funny in the movies. It is a pain when it is
found when you get in the car to go to work. Think about
finding one on your chest... one nice firm breast and one
squishy one hanging down, all because the implant... a very
thin "balloon" that ruptured, spilling the contents into
your body tissues... has broken open and been leaking its
contents into your body for... how long? Yuck! How much
tissue will have to be cut out of your breasts this time,
due to the liquid silicone that is spread throughout your
fatty tissues in your breast?
OK,
"worse-case scenario" you say, or "scare tactics". It is
your choice if you make this decision to place things into
your body. Just know that before you do that, you need to
talk to a lot of people to learn all of the facts, so that
you can become a more informed consumer. And I would not
suggest that your only source of information be the person
selling you the procedure. We are not talking about which
loaf of bread to buy... this is a life-altering decision you
are making, and you will live with the results... both the
positive ones as well as the negative ones... for the rest
of your life. Or you can love those beautiful breasts that
you have... those unscarred, unaltered, soft,
milk-producing, healthy breasts that maybe are not all that
bad?!
A
successful woman is not successful because she has the
perfect body. She accepts her body as being perfect, and
that makes her a success in everything that she does. If she
is happy with herself, so will others be happy with her.
Are you worried that your
breasts will cause others to not like you? This is a very
important thing to remember… something that everyone should
know, but too many don’t think about:
If You Are Happy With Yourself… If You
Actually Like Yourself,
Other Will Like You As Well.
Of course, the opposite is also true:
If You Don’t Like Yourself, No One Else Will
Like You!
So, can’t we also say the same thing about
your body parts?
If You Don’t Like Your Nose, No One Else Will
Like Your Nose.
Or…
If You Don’t Like Your Breasts, No One Else
Will Like Your Breasts.
So, what is the message here? Well, just
exactly what do you want? Do you want others to like you?
Then love yourself, just as you are, sort of like “Come As You
Are”.
Are you concerned about whether others will
‘approve’ of your breasts? If you love your breasts, others
will love them as well. And more than that, if you have a
great personality and if you seek to help others and to like
them and make friends with everyone, they will like you
whether you have breasts or not.
Do you know at least one person that is as
ugly as a stick… and yet they are very friendly and popular
and everyone likes them? Why is that? Probably it is because
they have learned to accept themselves for what they are,
and that makes others accept them as well. And stick girl is
happy as well. It works. It really does.
OK, so you are going to be happy and friendly
and like everybody you see and all of that. But, can you
help my breasts any? That IS the question, right?
Well, basically the answer is no, but there are some things
that you can do, beyond what we were just talking
about.
Your breasts (and everyone else’s breasts)
consist of suspension ligaments to lift them up high, milk
ducts to carry milk to your nipples, and milk glands that
generate your milk. That stuff is referred to as your
“acini” (a-kee-nee) tissues, and they make up one-third of
your breast. The other two-thirds? Sorry, but it is plain
old body fat. But that is good, because that is what fills
out your breasts and makes them look smooth and pretty and
makes them soft and cute and everything.
If you fear having larger breasts than you
would prefer to have, ask your doctor what your weight
should be. If you weigh more than you should for your
height, you might consider being more careful about your
diet. If you are already at your “normal” body weight for
your height, DO NOT GO ON A MASSIVE DIET TO REDUCE YOUR
BREASTS. It will mess up the rest of your body, and may not
affect your breast size anyway. We have no way of
controlling where body fat goes on or comes off our bodies.
But being overweight will likely not cause your breasts to
get smaller. That is certain.
In the same respect, if you are concerned
that your breasts are not going to be large enough, and
you are below your ‘normal’ weight, consider
eating better to gain up to your NORMAL weight
for your height. DO NOT EAT MORE FOOD TO GAIN BREAST SIZE if
you already are at your expected weight. You will end up
being fat with a flat chest.
Are you athletic? I mean REALLY athletic?
Like intra-mural sports? If so, and your breasts seem to be
behind schedule, or your period has not yet come and you are
well past the age your friends’ periods started, it may be
due to your body being so athletic. If you are athletic, you
probably have a low body-fat index, and your body relies on
having some body-fat for your estrogen to be produced. Your
estrogen controls when your periods start and when your
breasts develop. If your breasts are smaller than ‘normal’
at your age, it may be due to your extreme athletic
lifestyle.
And in the same respect, if your breasts are
getting larger than you think that they should, and you are
not exercising, AND you are not underweight, you might want
to become more physically active. That tends to slow down
your estrogen production, and estrogen is what your body
uses to develop your breast tissues. Of course it will be
good for your body in general, as well as your mental
health.
Note: There are NO exercises that can
increase or decrease your breast size directly. You cannot
“exercise” your breasts to develop them, because there are
no muscles in your breasts… except for teeny, tiny ones that
make your nipples become erect when you are cold. There are
muscles BEHIND your breasts… your pecs… pectoral muscles.
For many years, people have suggested developing your pecs
so they will cause your breasts to ‘stand out’ from your
chest more, but if you exercise enough to develop your pecs,
you may end up reducing your breast size from losing the fat
in your breasts. Don’t be afraid to exercise for fear of
losing your breasts. Some exercise is helpful, in many ways.
If you exercise for hours every day, you will possibly see
some loss of breast size due to a lowered body-mass index.
It just ain’t easy, is it. What a bummer.
Each of these ‘methods’ are only ‘possibles’,
and may not make much change to the eventual size of your
breasts, but they are healthy steps to take, and a healthy
body makes healthy breasts. And the younger you are, and the
earlier you start toward good breast health, the better off
your breasts will be.
Speaking of healthy breasts, breast health is
very important. One out of eight women who live to
the age of 96 will get breast cancer. That statistic is
getting worse. I recall forty years ago the number was
one out of sixteen. So, what has changed? What are we
doing differently to our breasts now that we did not do
then? There are several things that are believed to improve
breast health in our population, but there is something that
seems go be preventing us from doing the right thing. What
is it? Remember that term “in fashion”? Well, it rears its
ugly head once again.
There are five major studies that have been
done that have shown that one of the worse things that we
are doing to our breasts is we are preventing them from
flushing out their waste products, and those wastes are
causing our breast cells to become malignant (cancerous).
Your body has what is referred to as a
lymphatic fluid throughout. Each and every cell of your body
requires nutrients and oxygen and water to live, and the
product of cell life is waste products, just like your body
takes in nutrients, oxygen and water, and you produce… um…
waste. Right? Well, the wastes from your cells rely on your
lymphatic fluid to carry away the waste products, and take
them to your organs, which process the wastes and gets rid
of them when you go to the bathroom, or when you sweat. The
lymphatic fluids are your “garbage trucks” that carry the
wastes from each cell to ‘the dump’, where the wastes are
eliminated.
The weakness of that concept is the lymphatic
fluid does not have a pump. Your blood is moved by your
heart when it beats. But you don’t have a ‘heart’ to pump
the lymphatic fluids. The fluids and waste products move
when you move. Your muscles move your lymphatic fluid when
you exercise, or your body parts move, and that will ‘pump’
the fluids throughout your body. That is what your breasts
do when they bounce and wiggle and jiggle. The breast
movement causes your lymphatic fluids to move through your
breasts and flush out the cellular waste products. But what
is it that we are doing with our breasts? We put them into a
bra to… HOLD THEM STILL. “Fashion” won’t let us allow our
breasts to move around. That is what bra companies advertise
when they sell bras… that they “SUPPORT” them. Support and
separate. That means your breasts don’t move. If your breasts don’t
move, what happens to your lymphatic fluids in your breasts?
They lay stagnant in your breasts. The garbage trucks are
not running! It is believed that stagnant waste is what
causes your breast cells to become malignant… to become
cancerous.
What can you do to reduce your chance of that
happening? Very simple: Don’t Wear Your Bra. OK, you may
feel like you ‘need’ to wear it at certain times, but when
you are home or ‘knocking around’ with friends, leave it
off. And for goodness sakes, DON’T SLEEP IN YOUR BRA. When
will your breasts ever be able to move and flush out those
wastes if they are kept inside that harness that you wear?
Encourage your mother to do the same. It will help her
breasts as well. The more your breasts are allowed to move
on their own, the healthier they will be, the less often
they will develop painful cysts inside, and the lower your
risk for developing breast cancer will be. That is a proven
fact.
The bra was invented by a woman a hundred
years ago, and since that time, women have been told that if
they DON’T wear a bra, their breasts will sag to their
knees. Well, that has been proven time and time again to
not be true. The Cooper’s Ligaments that are in your
breasts will hold your breasts up, all by themselves, but if
you constantly wear a bra, the ligaments will weaken
(atrophy), or if you wear a “training bra” as soon as your
breasts start to enlarge, the ligaments will never be
required and they will not develop any strength, and your
breasts will actually sag more, when the bra is removed. Women
that stop wearing a bra have found that their breasts
actually will lift on their own over time. That is because
when they have to support your breasts (without a bra), the
ligaments get stronger, and they lift your breasts
naturally.
Women that do not wear a bra have about the same
risk of developing breast cancer as a man. Yes, a man. And
yes, men do get breast cancer. They do have breasts. Haven’t
you noticed those nipples on their chest? Last year
something like 180,000 women were diagnosed with breast
cancer. Five thousand men were diagnosed with breast cancer.
I like those odds much better. How about you?
So, what are you going to do so that you can
get to where you actually LIKE your breasts more than you do
now? Well, first, let me introduce you to them. Have you
ever really paid any attention to your breasts? Have you
ever really looked them over carefully? Do you know them
well enough that you could recognize them? It is important
that ALL women get to know their breasts intimately. They
are going to be together for a long time, hopefully. The
better you know them, the quicker you can spot a problem if
they have one. You can visit a site that will allow you to
see how to do a Breast Self-Examination… a BSE. It is
http://sexednotes.com/BSE.htm
A lovely young lady took images of herself doing the BSE
because it is important to do it carefully, and often. She
wants to help you to have healthy breasts. Do it once a
month. When should you start doing BSE? Well, do you have
breasts? Then you should be doing BSE. The earlier you start
doing it, the better you get to learn your breasts. The
better you will know them. That allows you to know
immediately if something is different. A doctor can
tell you if it is good different or bad different.
Something else you can do is to give your
breasts a friendly massage. And this will actually feel
good, so you will probably enjoy doing this. Every day you
should do this, ESPECIALLY if you had to wear a bra that
day. Try to never wear a bra longer than 8 hours in a day.
Six would be better. Or four. Or zero.
You don’t have to be trained, or be a
licensed masseuse or anything. Just move your breasts around
while you are reading or watching TV (with your bra in the
drawer, of course). The idea is to move them so that your
lymphatic fluids will move around, in and out of your breast
tissues. Those fluids all
try to work toward your underarm. If you ‘push’ the skin in
that direction, it may help to get the fluid to move toward
your underarm. That is where most of your breast’s lymphatic
nodes are located. There are a couple of dozen of them under
there.
Give your breasts a chance to get some air.
When you are in your room alone, open your blouse (no bra of
course) and allow air to move over your breasts. And get to
know them while you do this. If you have a chance to sit and
get some morning or evening sun on your breasts without
causing a scene with your neighbors, do that.
If
you feel like you are the 'Lone Ranger' and are the only
woman on earth that has breasts that look like yours do, why
don't you take a look at a gallery of images of women who
are quite pleased with their breasts. They have breasts all
the way from tiny to extreme, and there are many more just
like them. I guarantee you will find several in that gallery
that are the same size or shape that you are now, so be
proud of who you are and what you look like, just like these
women are, and you will be much happier. The gallery is
located here:
http://sexednotes.com/Breast%20Gallery.htm
One of the reasons young women
are not happy with their breast size may be that a
particular fashion or clothing style may be currently
popular, and they wish they could wear that style. But
styles change from year to year, and women cannot change
their breast size again and again. What would be really
helpful to you would be for them to study the styles that
are available, and find what looks good on women that have
the same breast size as you have. Dress yourself to fit your
breasts, instead of trying to make your breasts fit a
popular style. I know... I hear you... there may be limited
styles available to you that look good with your breasts,
but there definitely are some. Don't limit yourself just to
what is coming out of Hollywood or Paris this week... look
back in history and find what looked great for your shape in
the past. Former styles are being brought back all of the
time. Your dad probably kept his wide ties when the narrow
ones were popular, and later on, narrow ties were popular
again.
Think about completely
different directions, such as Western wear, or Asian styles,
or Swiss or German or Hawaiian... there are so many
different things being worn today and they can all look
good, if you work with them. Think of it... you may find the
combination that makes your breasts look like the amazing
person you really are. That's far better than driving
yourself crazy trying to make your body fit today's newest
style.
Well, you read my note, but you are still
asking the question: “Will my breasts be huge?” or “When
will my breasts start to GROW!?” There are some indicators
that suggest what you can expect, but nothing is guaranteed.
It is only an educated guess as to what your breasts are
going to do. They can still make pretty major changes up
into your twenties. If that is what you would like to know,
it will require you to share some intimate information.
Please be sure that your parent is ok with your doing this.
I can assure you that any information and any images that
you share will be read in the strictest of privacy and
absolutely none of your data will ever be shared with
anyone. Ever. And that is my solemn promise to you.
If you or your parents would like to know me
better before you do this, encourage them to write to me. Or
why don’t you or your friends drop me a note with your
breast questions, if you don’t have someone at home that you
can speak with about these matters. My address is at the
bottom of this note. Be sure your parent knows you are doing
this. That is important.
I will need to know the following
information:
1.
What is your age?
2.
What is your height?
3.
What is your weight? (be as accurate as you can be
😊)
4.
At what age did you have your first period?
5.
Have your periods been regular (normal is every 26 to 30
days)
6.
At what age did you first notice an enlargement starting
under your nipples?
7.
What size bra did your biological mother wear when she was
twenty-five years old?
8.
What size bra did your biological mother’s mom wear when she
was twenty-five years old? You may have to estimate this
size.
9.
What size bra did your biological father’s mom wear when she
was twenty-five years old? Don’t ask your father for his bra
size, OK? He won’t think that is funny.
10.
Are you using estrogen-based birth control pills? If yes at
what age did you start using them?
11.
Are you using any estrogen-based medication for acne?
12.
Are you using any other estrogen-based medication?
13.
Have you had any chest surgeries or breast surgeries?
14.
Are you participating in any intra-mural sports program? If
yes, when did you first seriously participate?.
15.
Take a look at this article:
http://breastnotes.com/aware/aware-stages-opt.html
and read about the five stages of breast development. Notice
the characteristics of the breast at each of the stages.
With this information, see if you can
determine your current
developmental stage. Knowing the stage of development your
breasts are in will help you by
telling you if your breasts are nearly mature or if they
still have some developing to go through before you reach
your “adult” stage. The Tanner Stage of Breast Development
is what is used to make this determination, along with the
important information listed above.
Again, all of this information will be
treated as being sacred, and will be deleted after your
developmental stage is determined, and I report the findings
back to you.
I’m sure that you have a lot of questions.
That is healthy and good. Information is important. You will
be making many decisions in your lifetime, and you need
good, honest information to make those decisions. Please
feel free to write to me, and tell me your concerns and your
questions. I can be more specific about your particular
situation, especially if I have the information that is
requested.
I taught high school students for 35 years
and I always made myself available to them to answer
questions that were extremely personal and important to
them. I respected their privacy and their concerns, and I
respect yours as well. Please know that I will do my best to
find answers for you, so that you will be more informed and
so that you will feel better about your situation. Also,
don’t forget that your parents are very much concerned about
you and your situation, and would like very much to help
you. If you have trouble communicating with them, I would be
very willing to work with both of you, to help with the
communication problem. It is important that you find
answers, and that is why we are here.
And remember:
You Are A Beautiful Woman, In Your Own,
Wonderful Way
If I can be of any help, I hope to hear from
you.
Respectfully,
Ken
Ken L. Smith, Breast Health Facilitator for
ACS
Instructor, Health and Sex Education, Ret.
www.BreastNotes.com
www.SexEdNotes.com
BreastCare@comcast.net
09/17 |
